After several years of pain, I have finally figured out why the Jesus said that you must forgive. Grudges, and the need for revenge do nothing except drag you down. For me, all the things that i've been through the past few years made me physically ill, but after plenty of prayer and thinking "the past is the past, nothing you can do about it, except get on with life" I have forgiven the kids that picked on me in school and the lady that got my Mom hurt, and I feel %100 better. I wish I could have done this a long time ago, because I can only imagine the life I've wasted feeling sorry for myself!